How do men really feel about dating or being in a relationship with a single mother? Signed Single Mother of One.
Thank you for the question Single Mother of One. I will be honest, you may or may not like what I have to say so before I start I would like to say thank you for being open and asking real questions. But real questions deserve real answers so here goes.
The reality is, when it comes to dating, men do not care. Now that may be harsh but it is true. Men are not worried about your circumstances because in this scenario we are just dating. We are having a good time and enjoying each others’ company.
It is not necessary to worry about the future because we are worrying about the present. Is date one gonna lead to date two? Is date two gonna lead to date three? Will any of these dates lead to the bedroom?
The reality is sex is on the mind. May not be the main factor but it’s there, front and centre on the brain. Your child is an important factor in this case but only in planning when and where we can meet and hang out.
Be honest, ladies. You do not want your child around anyone you’re just dating either because there may get attached to the new male (or female – no judgement here) in your life. It may not be wise to put your child in a position where they can be let down or, worse yet, feel abandoned.
Now this subject switches when you look at the prospects of being in a relationship.
Before many people enter relationships, especially people with children, all cards are laid down. I have a child. I have bad credit. I live with my parents. My baby father is locked up for aggravated assault and my favorite dish to cook is a glass of water. That’s right a glass of water; room temperature at that. Yummmmmm.
Understand, Miss Single Mother of One, you have all the control in the scenario, and men know it. You are the one who dictates what it is that you want. Do you want a father figure for your child? A husband? A financier? An equal? A dependent? A boy toy? Etc.
The decision is yours. How you react, the vibes you send, your whole demeanor dictates what it is that you want and what you need.
A man’s role is to just be whatever it is that you need and want simultaneously. In this scenario a man has to understand that your main priority is your child and their well being. A man will accept this and play his position. It’s an easy equation. Happy Child + Happy Mommy = Happy Relationship.
You as a single mother need not worry about what a man thinks in this scenario. You worry about your wants and needs and if he is worthy of being in a relationship with you. He will step up to the plate.
In conclusion, men are not worried about your scenario until you put them in a situation where they have to be.
Agree or Disagree, it’s up to you. This is just the opinion of your average So n So.
P.S. You will only know what it’s like being with a man when you stop dating boys.